Have you noticed that your friend or flatmate has started to suffer with their mental health?
For them, having someone there to talk to and support them when they are feeling down can really help, it's just about knowing how to help. It can be difficult to know what to do if you've never experienced something like this before, but here are some simple tips that can really make a difference when they need it the most:
1. Be positive and uplifting
No matter what they are going through, they will have good days and bad days. Encourage them to keep positive and try to be uplifting. It could be that they want to open up to you about what's going on, or perhaps they want a distraction, just scope it out and go along with what they need.
2. Make them feel involved
If you have plans or have your friends coming over, involve them in this as much as you can. You need to keep your own independence but if it's appropriate try and make them feel included. They may not want to join but letting them know they are invited should help improve their feeling of belonging.
3. Don't make them feel like an inconvenience
It can be very hard to be around someone who is struggling and feeling down, and you'll want to be careful it doesn't affect your own well being. However, you don't want to make anyone feel worse, so saying things like 'cheer up will you' or 'you're always bringing the mood down' definitely won't get either of you anywhere. Let them know you are there to talk to when they need it, and avoid passing any negative comments in the meantime.
4. Give them space when they need it
If they don't join in on group activities, don't give them grief about it or make them feel bad as this will only push them further away and it will have a lasting negative effect on them. Check in, but don't push it.
5. Let them know you're not judging them
The stigma around mental health might make people think they're going to be judged and that they can't talk about their problems. That's why you need to let them know that you aren't judging them, and you really do just care about their wellbeing. It sounds small but it can make a huge difference.
6. Help them however you can, but know your boundaries
It's important to help them whenever and wherever you can, but know when it's the right time to pass it onto someone else. Encourage them to speak to their family if they feel comfortable doing this, often this can ease a lot of the pressure. There is also plenty of Support in Halls and also in the wider University, to find out more click here and visit our Support Tab on Halls Life.